Chasing Goals that Aren't Yours 🏃‍♂️‍➡️ 🏃‍➡️

𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘨𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘐 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬.

The promotion that seemed like the logical next step. 

𝘔𝘺 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘪𝘨 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦: 𝘧𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘺 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘭𝘦, 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘱𝘢𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬. 𝘚𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘶𝘯𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘧𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘥.

The metrics that everyone says matter? 

𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬, ‘𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳?’

That version of success that looks good on paper—but just feels...empty.

It’s so easy to get caught in the momentum of everyone’s expectations. What someone else may have said you ‘should’ do.

Believe me – as a high-performer I got so caught up in it that I didn’t realize I was living someone else’s version of success until I was 51! And once that became clear, it took me the next couple of years to pick up the proverbial rug and reveal a whole me that I had swept underneath for so long!

𝗦𝗼, 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴: 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗼!

𝗜𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗰𝘁? 𝗜𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗕𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲? 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆? 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺? 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺𝘀, 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁.

True story – I promise you that!

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂—𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄?