The Most Important Measurement of Success
- Alison Conigliaro-Hubbard
- 4 days ago
- 2 min read
๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ดโ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ, ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ, ๐น๐ฒ๐ด๐ฎ๐ฐ๐โ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฝ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฐ๐๐. ๐๐ ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐๐โ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฏ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ป ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ.
I got a DM from an old friend/colleague. We worked together in a couple of companies 20+ years ago. At the first, I knew him as a demanding, in-your-face, brash enterprise seller from the New York Metro regionโkilling his quota and taking names.
Then he joined the large competitor where Iโd already landed. It felt like an old friend joining forces. It was good to have him as part of the tight-knit team as we built what would become a multi-billion-dollar business.
We hadnโt spoken in years, but on Friday he messaged saying he wanted to talk. I didnโt know what it was about, but Iโm always ready to catch up with friends from back in the day.
After a few early appointments, I saw heโd left a voicemail:
ย โ๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฃ๐๐ฌ๐จ, ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช. ๐พ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ข๐ ๐๐๐๐ .โ
I got home to my office and called. He told me heโd been diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He had finished initial chemo and was starting another round focused on his liver.
He shared that his priorities now are his family, palliative care, and peace. He talked about his kidsโ18, 23, and 36โand how proud he is of each.
Heโs been speaking with his priest to find peace in the process. He was in good spirits, and said he wanted to reach out to the people who had influenced his life. I was one of them.
He told me Iโd always been helpful, kind, courteous, and respectful.
As a former product marketer, I suppose that balance of โhelpfulโ and โrespectfulโ describes the bonds I built with my partners in sales and product.
Thereโs so much emotion in hearing that I made a difference in someoneโs lifeโespecially when they are facing the hardest of times.
As I sit here reflecting on what REALLY matters...
Itโs not about how many times we killed the quota, looked good to our bosses, or jammed 10 extra emails into the day.
Itโs about how we care for peopleโthe lasting connections we make along the way. Iโve learned this lesson many times, and this call underscored it again.
Itโs about building enough trust and respect in each otherโs humanityโฆ so that even in lifeโs darkest moments, someone you once worked alongside might reach out and include you in the small group of people who shaped them.
I am deeply, deeply moved.
๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐น๐ ๐๐ต๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ท๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐ป๐ฒ๐, ๐ผ๐น๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ. ๐โ๐๐ฒ ๐ด๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ.
And if you donโt think this applies to success in business, I encourage you to reconsider.

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